Relationship Series Tip1

My best friend from college never agreed with my relationship style..she and I used to have a difference of opinion from school days...both of us grew into separate individuals over this period of time and right when we were hitting the BIG 4, she said that i should document my thoughts about relationships..she went ahead and said that I should write a book on this topic. I took it as a compliment although I am not sure if she meant it as a compliment?? You know how best friends are???!!

We all have mental list of people that are very important in our lives..like parents, spouse, children, sibling, friends and business associates.. I apply the 80-20 rule. Spend effort and time on 20% of most important relationships in life..make no quams about it and do not cheat yourself about important people..spend a lot of quality time with spouce and kids, they need to feel very important and nurtured in life. If you are spending to much time in a relationship that may not last or not so important, think about it..

Do not let ego ruin a relationship. da!!!I know that's what all books say...how do you truly apply it? For me it is very simple- I always try and look at the reason for conflict in a relationship. Go deeper and deeper and keep asking why??? You will always get an answer that you could have done something better and not let ego come in. Give up yourselves truly in a relationship. There should be No room for ego. The benefits are truly amazing... the other person also gives in...Don't beat yourself for any mistakes committed. Apologize to yourself and the other person and let it go... and take it forward as it goes beautifully like a paint brush....

There are also some tactical stuff that are very tough with aging parents and growing children...I live with my parents and children together in the same house..The relationship is complex... parents need to be taken care and disciplined like young children. However, if kids watch you do that... they will do the same thing to you..Therefore, we need to adopt different tactics with aging parents. One thing i have learnt is that they are always protective about us and will interfere in our decisions to "protect us". Listen to their suggestions and 'truly listen". Need not follow them. No matter how they irritate you and have conflicting opinions from you, find ways to treat them. Shower them with compliments and remember that our children are most likely to treat us the same way that we treat our parents No matter how better we think we are from our parents.

Residence of Elected representatives

Most of the elected representatives (MLA's) live in Hyderabad. They have a secondary residence in their constituency and primary residence in Hyderabad. Their kids most often study in Ooty public schools and Hyderabad Public schools. MLA's spend most of their time in hyderabad doing 'deals' for themselves.

We should make it compulsory for MLA's children to study in the constituency schools untill 12th. They should be treated in local hospitals (unless some specialized disease that need specialists) and their families should be based in the town/city of their constituency. I will go to the extent of saying that thier time spent in the constituencies should be recorded...

One may argue that MLA has other life and businesses and their children's oppurtunities should not be limited, etc, etc. However, I beleive that it is a choice that he/she should make. The reason for it being that just this one step alone will change (improve) basic facilities like schools, junior colleges and hospital, connecting roads will improve. The MLS will start thinking about it. if anyone is not able to follow this, they should be dis-qualified from participating int he next election.

AVATAR

Finally, I watched Avatar 3D at INNOX. I didn't want to raise any high expectations for myself and hence restrained myself from reading too many reviews before I watched the movie.I kind of guessed that the movie is going to be technically outstanding.

The movie started and by the time I understood what was happening..(kind of understood that we were into the future..) we were taken into a new planet...New planet was very colorfully and extremely pleasing to the eyes and I was still trying to understand what the hell was happening in the new planet and relationship to the old planet...while enjoying the brilliance on the screen. In between, I think i dozed off for a few minutes..

I understood that technically, the movie was so far outstanding that it may take another decade or two before Bollywood can attempt anything close to that...If Cameron had really thought about this 15 years back.. I cannot imagine what he is made of.... I have No qualification or stature to give a review on this movie since it is beyond me and my capacities....However,

I was watching my kids reactions and their questions after the movie... I was hoping that they will ask questions about other planets, life on them, creatures on them,...etc, etc.. I was feeling very happy for the kids that they should be lucky to watch such a movie - dream about a different planet, characters,...etc how to get there, etc...

I have talked to other kids of my children age... I was poking them to see what they liked....story.,,etc They seemed to have liked or loved the movie..however, I felt none of them really understood what was happening... there was a hurry and complexity in the story with too many details...

As a teenager, I remember being awed by Star Trek, Jurassic park and it didn't leave me for many weeks if not months. I don't get the feeling that the kids today had such experience after watching AVATAR. Whatever, the case may be.. they are not excited, although everyone watched it...

Predictable story..
Superb/Meticulous technology and execution..
Brilliant marketing..

Also, the characters did not look very real... the animals...the birds...were too colorful and too unreal. The message however is loud and clear not to mess with nature!!!

Seperate Statehood... My views

Hyderabad... Telangana or Andhra Pradesh?

Life has come to standstill if you are living in Andhra Pradesh, especially, if you are politically interested or if you were a non-telangana person but have significant investments in Hyderabad.


I have moved to hyderabad in 2004 from the United States of America, hoping to raise my children in India with Indian values and culture and with the promise of India raising to become an economic super power. We had choices of going to Chennai, Bangalore, Mumbai or any other city in India. I personally wanted to move back to Chennai since I really love the hard working nature of Tamilians and the city offers great culture and education for children. My grand parents lived in Chennai during the composite Madras state. My husband on the other hand put is hands down for Chennai and threatened that he will only move back to Hyderabad and NO other city in India. His argument was that Hyderabad has as good schools and the oppurtunity to speak Telugu every single day and oppurtunity for kids to grow up as 'Telugu's. I decided to support him and move back to Hyderabad. I have really enjoyed living here for the last 5 years and I realize that I am a true Hyderabadi and so are my kids..

KCR started fast in December and December 9th, there is announcement that process has begun for the formation of sepearte statehood of Telangana.

The industry is going through a very difficult recession and unemployment phase. Companies have stopped hiring, real-estate has plumented and virtually no new investments are coming into Hyderabad. The Indian market primarily depends on "Growth" factor. The announcement without a "process" explanation has put all a lot of people in dielema. We have been hearing a lot of statements like "Settlers Bhago". What do such statements mean to us? It looks like some Telanga people want "Andhra" and "Rayalaseema" people to run away leaving our properties behind... properties that have been acquired after paying nearly 50% taxes in the U.S? Whose land is it anyways? Is the market going to come back again with growth? Most business are running in losses and how does te economy move back to positive gains with such fears and disturbances?

Is there a representation for "settlers" in Hyderabad? If so, what do we demand in the wake of new statehood?

Electronic Voting Machines (EVM’s)

We have used EVM’s for the last two general elections – 2004 and yet again in 2009. The idea of going to EVM’s from a paper ballot is obvious – moving from low-tech to hi-tech to enable faster counting and better organization of election process. However, the bigger question is – Are they right for India?

EVM’s are suppose to deliver accuracy, transparency and more than all – tamper-proof by anyone or any entity. The very idea of going to Identification based Electronic voting was to provide more transparancy. The current EVM’s are obviously tamper-able by anyone who knows a bit of technology as demonstrated recently to Election Commission. Whether or not EVM’s have been tampered is not the question, but giving a tamper proof voting mechanism is the basic right of every voting citizen.

Now, we need to either go back to paper voting or make tamper-proof voting machines. The software that runs behind the machines should be an open source code and should be determined that nobody can tamper the results of voting. With such a huge talent of software programmers in India, it should n’t be difficult.

However, I wonder what the process is to challenge the exisiting system and bring about corrections in the flaws of the current system. Where should we go for putting a stop to the current EVM’s or bring about a change in EVM’s?

GHMC elections

Today is the day for GHMC elections... went and voted.. It is inspiring to see people qued up and exercising their votes. This is the part that makes me excited about Indian democracy and politics... Elections is a festival in India..Grander than any religious festival.. People sincerely go for voting although our % of voters are lower compared to what we would like it to be.. In general, we Indians are believers in this country and our system although we are frustrated every single day with things that don't work, aspiring for better things, irritated with leaders who constantly make meaningless comments...etc.

I am excited about launching the political school... a dream and an aspiration for so many years... that did not die after 18 years of corporate life and love for business and money... I get frustrated, angry when leaders don't focus on what they need to... improving lives of our citizens..both short term and long term...I want to change their mind set, change their thinking, corrupt them with issues that actually matter..increase the mind share of politicians from their personal agendas to people's issues... Dreaming about the day when political system discusses about issues and not about themselves... who cares what the CM thinks who is going to win the GHMC elections... We only care for what matters....no matter who wins..people should win!! they should get better facilities and live in a better city!!!