Relationship Series Tip1

My best friend from college never agreed with my relationship style..she and I used to have a difference of opinion from school days...both of us grew into separate individuals over this period of time and right when we were hitting the BIG 4, she said that i should document my thoughts about relationships..she went ahead and said that I should write a book on this topic. I took it as a compliment although I am not sure if she meant it as a compliment?? You know how best friends are???!!

We all have mental list of people that are very important in our lives..like parents, spouse, children, sibling, friends and business associates.. I apply the 80-20 rule. Spend effort and time on 20% of most important relationships in life..make no quams about it and do not cheat yourself about important people..spend a lot of quality time with spouce and kids, they need to feel very important and nurtured in life. If you are spending to much time in a relationship that may not last or not so important, think about it..

Do not let ego ruin a relationship. da!!!I know that's what all books say...how do you truly apply it? For me it is very simple- I always try and look at the reason for conflict in a relationship. Go deeper and deeper and keep asking why??? You will always get an answer that you could have done something better and not let ego come in. Give up yourselves truly in a relationship. There should be No room for ego. The benefits are truly amazing... the other person also gives in...Don't beat yourself for any mistakes committed. Apologize to yourself and the other person and let it go... and take it forward as it goes beautifully like a paint brush....

There are also some tactical stuff that are very tough with aging parents and growing children...I live with my parents and children together in the same house..The relationship is complex... parents need to be taken care and disciplined like young children. However, if kids watch you do that... they will do the same thing to you..Therefore, we need to adopt different tactics with aging parents. One thing i have learnt is that they are always protective about us and will interfere in our decisions to "protect us". Listen to their suggestions and 'truly listen". Need not follow them. No matter how they irritate you and have conflicting opinions from you, find ways to treat them. Shower them with compliments and remember that our children are most likely to treat us the same way that we treat our parents No matter how better we think we are from our parents.